Group Connection

 

“These events are provided as a resource for our readers and the reader is asked to do their own evaluation and vetting of the suitability. The listings do not imply endorsement or sponsorship by The Men’s Council.”

Men’s  Gathering  Sponsor
State
Event  Month
Rhode Island Mens Gathering RI February
The Men’s Council NC April Gathering; Fall Feast:
Redwood Men’s Center CA May
North Coast Men’s Gathering CA May
Unitarian Universalist of NY NY June
Granite Men’s Gathering NH May
Nation of Men CA September
Massachusetts Men’s Gathering MA September
Victories – Transforming the Lives of Men IL September; Oct.
Connecticut Men’s Gathering CT September
Vermont Men Alive VT Aug, Sept, Oct, Feb.
The Way of the Spirit Warrior (Teens) OR October
Maine Coast Men ME October
Minnesota Men’s Conference MN Feb & Sept
Still Mountain CA All year
Men’s Leadership Alliance CO; MN Many events all year
Michael Meade’s – Mosaic Voices CA Many events all year
Desert Men’s Council AZ Many events all year
The Men’s Council is unique in its passion for providing men with a strong support network as an outlet for interaction, guidance, help and advice. Men are no longer on their own when dealing with complex issues.

What is a support group?

A support group is a group of 5 to 10 men committed to sharing events of our daily lives, the feelings stirred by those events, and the history behind those feelings.

Support groups are not a substitute for therapy, but a place where we can be ourselves. All groups are expected to follow a set of Guidelines established by the Council. The only requirement for joining a support group is a genuine desire to join with other men in supporting each other’s life journeys.

There may be some delay in placement pending formation of new groups and requests from existing groups to add new members.

Support Group Guidelines

These guidelines can help your group achieve meaningful give-and-take of a richness and depth that makes the experience positive for all members. Giving and receiving truthful feedback is a skill that takes the individual time to acquire, and the group time to adjust and adapt to. Revised and adopted December, 1998

    1. Commitment – For the group to grow as a group, the regular attendance of every member is important. If an emergency prevents your attendance, let another member know ASAP. Before you quit your group, discuss it with the group and plan a session to say your good-byes. Closure in this matter is important.
    2. Confidentiality – Members and issues of the group are not to be discussed with anyone outside the group.
    3. “I” Statements vs. “You” Statements – Take ownership for your feelings and opinions. For example, “I feel nervous when you laugh at me like that,” will be more likely to generate a useful conversation than “You make me nervous!”
    4. Listen – Attentive silence followed by non-judgmental acknowledgment–e.g., “Sounds like you’re angry about it,” vs. “You don’t have to bitch about it so much!”
    5. Focus on Feelings – How you feel about an issue or event or person is more important than the logic. The group can help you express your feelings if you let it.
    6. Responsibility – Each member is responsible for his own behavior, thoughts and feelings. Each member is also responsible for asking specifically for what he wants from the group.
    7. Any Member May “pass” – Anyone who is uncomfortable or unwilling to participate in a given conversation may “pass” without having to explain.
    8. Speak Directly to One Another – Instead of saying to the group, “John seems angry,” look John in the eye and say, “You seem angry, John.”
    9. Avoid Judgment and Advice – Describe behavior (“You’re clenching your fists-are you angry?”). Don’t judge or advise (“You don’t have to get pissed off-why don’t you take a few deep breaths?”) Judgment and advice are OK if asked for explicitly (“How do you think I handled it? What would you suggest I do next time?”)
    10. Be Here Now – Remain as much as possible in the present.
    11. Avoid Questioning – When tempted to ask a question (“Why are you looking at me like that?”), discover the personal statement behind it, and express that (“I get uncomfortable when you look at me like that.”)

To Join a Support Group

In the Triangle Area:
There are currently a select number of support groups holding regular meetings. For additional information, please contact the Triangle Support Group Coordinator, Doug Lester, Group Coordinator.

In the Charlotte Area:
New groups are forming all the time. If you’re interested in the possibility of joining an existing support group or one that is forming, contact Jarod Brown.
In the Boone Area:
If you’d like information about what’s going on in the Boone area or interested in the possibility of joining an existing support group or one that is forming, contact Bob Cambron.
Looking for Members for your Support Group?
If you are a member of a Support Group that would consider having other interested committed men join you please let us hear from you and we will try to coordinate your matching with a man seeking a group.  Write us.

Virtual Men’s Support Group  
Join us with On Line for a Virtual Men’s Support Group
A great group of men interested in connecting, growing and working on their lives to make them better. It is free and will brighten you week.We meet on the web Sunday’s at 9 AM Central Time. We convene on time, do a short meditation, check in with everyone to see if anyone needs time and then share about our week. We typically meet for one and a half hours.

We all connect via Google Hangouts http://www.google.com/hangouts/ (It’s free and easy to use once you are set up.) You will need a computer, a web camera with a microphone, (aka webcam) and high speed internet access. You will want to do this in a place with some privacy. A coffee shop or library will not do for meditation and sharing about your life.

For more information contact Pete Karl .      

Psychological Counseling and Therapist-Led Support Groups:

For therapists with experience in men’s support issues. Some of these therapists lead men’s support groups as well as work with men individually.
In the Triangle Area, contact:
    • Mark Bailes, LCSW, BCD (919) 783-7494 Raleigh
    • Nathan Berolzheimer, MSW, LCSW  (919)-302-0716 Chapel Hill
    • Joel Dillon, PhD psychologist, (919) 428-2766 Cary NC
    • Doug Jennette, MSW, LCSW (919) 781-6393 Raleigh
    • Michael Katz, PhD (919) 781-0852 Raleigh
    • Richard Kevin, PhD (919) 878-7800 Raleigh
    • Lou Lipsitz, LCSW (919) 782-4980 Raleigh and Chapel Hill
    • Richard Stolp, PhD (919) 571-0917 Raleigh
    • Joe Gilbert, M.Ed, LPC (919)429-7835 X 203 Raleigh
    • Bernie Newton, LPC (919)526-0256 Raleigh
    • Tony Delmedico, LPC (919)623-8118  Raleigh
    • Jonas Horwitz, PhD (919)401-6171   Durham
In the Greensboro Area, contact:
    • Paul Volk, MSW (336)444-3636
    • Peter Wohlwend, LMFT, M.Div  (336) 274-4669
    • Bob Dickinson, PhD (336)854-4450
    • Tom Lane, DMIN (NCLPC) 336-545-1200
    • Bob Mylan, LCSW (336)310-5648
    • H. John King, PhD, LPC (336)558-4720
    • Ted Dougherty, PhD (336)323-1616
In the Charlotte Area, contact:
  • Randy Wall, PhD or Rick Deitchman, PhD  with Charlotte Psychotherapy Counseling Group (704) 364-0452
  • Ronald Wolfe, LMFT, LPC  (704) 240-5023
  • Philip Loydpierson, MSW    (704) 342-3456
In the Boone Area, contact:
    • Philip L. Cole, LCSW, LCAS (828)406-0590
    • Tom Woodard, LPC, LCAS (828) 265-1455
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