Virtual NC Gathering of Men

04/18/20 10:00 AM - 04/19/20 4:00 PM
A Virtual Gathering of Men 
Sponsored by The Men’s Council
April 18 & 19, 2020
Finding Well-Being

In the In-Between
liminal space is the time between the ‘what was’ and the ‘next.’ It is a place of transition, waiting, and not knowing. Liminal space is where all transformation takes place, if we learn to wait and let it form us.

This Virtual Gathering of Men is a fulfillment of The Men’s Council’s mission: Men helping men build better lives. It is an event to make available to men an opportunity for connection in a time of social distancing. We are facing a threat from a virulent virus that depends on close physical connection to increase victims. However, when we seek safety by “sheltering in place” we face a threat to our well-being from the isolation we then create for ourselves. Join us and help bridge the gap between isolation and community.

Plan to join us as we engage in ritual and ceremony, share poetry and stories, and find inspiration in music. We plan to engage with one another in both large and small group sessions.


April 18 from 10 am to 12 pm
April 19 from 2 pm to 4 pm


This event is free. However, in order to have an idea of how many will be joining the conversation we are asking participants to sign up. You do not need to sign up for both sessions. At the same time, as is the case for the retreat form the Gathering usually takes, participating on both days has the potential of maximizing the positive effects of connecting with one another.

We will be using the Zoom platform. Those who are registered for the session will receive the information needed to sign into the meeting.

REGISTER Has now ended
Thanks you for your interest
2020 Virtual Gathering

Contact Information

PHONE or TEXT: 919-923-7539 (cell)

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  • 04/23/21 2:00 PM - 04/25/21 3:00 PM
    Due to the corona virus pandemic
    this event has been tentatively  set.
    Pandemic  conditions will determine
    ultimately what happens

    26th NC Gathering of Men in North Carolina
    Sponsored by The Men's Council
    April 23-25, 2021
    Theme: TBD

    Camp Chestnut Ridge, Efland, NC just off I-40 between Burlington and Durham

    The Gathering Experience

    Words fail to express fully what happens when men go beyond trivial everyday banalities and into meaningful community. If you are just learning about this event, the video, In the Safety of Men, best communicates the value of the Gathering. For more than twenty years, the NC Gathering of Men has opened a space for men to experience the mystery of deep communing through the sharing of stories, poetry, drumming, and being together with open hearts. This event is planned and led by men seasoned in facilitating men's retreats and working with men out of their own deep personal experiences.

    The schedule for the weekend will include large group gatherings with stories and poems, small group sessions, time for ritual, many workshops to choose from, music, song, and enough free time to explore the beautiful camp and lake. Sign in will be from 5 to 7 PM on Friday. The program will begin at 7 PM. Closing will be at 3 PM on Sunday.

    We rely on networking to get the word out. If you know of other men who would enjoy and benefit from this weekend, please let them know. If you know men who you think would benefit from this experience, and do not have internet access, print this page and share it with them. Anyone who does not have means to register online should contact the Registrar directly (see below), and we will work with that individual to get them registered by phone.


    CAMP CHESTNUT RIDGE is situated on 340 acres of beautiful wooded hills, wetlands, and a 9 acre lake. Cabins are dormitory style with bunks, toilets, and showers - or bring a tent and camp out! Plan to bring your own bedding, towels, and personal necessities.

    Meals will be provided from Saturday breakfast through Sunday lunch. Fruit will be available for snacking. There will be no meal Friday afternoon or evening. Plan on either eating before arrival or bringing a bag lunch.

    Young Men 

    Young men (ages 13 and up) are invited to attend the Gathering. We require young men 17 and under to be accompanied by a male parent or guardian or to have an assigned male sponsor. They must also submit a permission form signed by a parent or guardian and a special waiver of liability. You will receive links to the forms along with details about the weekend when you complete your registration. Contact the registrar if you'd like more information.

    Every year we have wonderful workshops to choose from including topics on men's issues, poetry, and Dynamic Breath work. Our workshops are led by the extraordinary volunteer talent of our participants. If you have a workshop that you might like to conduct, please consider submitting a proposal by completing this Workshop Proposal Form.

    Pre-Gathering Sessions. (These may be different for 2019) For those who want to get a jump on the weekend we offer pre-Gathering sessions. In 2019 there will be one option for men to consider attending early Friday afternoon. 

    Dynamic Breathwork with Simon McCain

    Click on this LINK for more information.


    Registration Fees

    The registration fees are:

    • Adult men 26 y.o. and older - $140
    • Young men ages 13-25 - $70

    Caveats for Registration

    • The cutoff for registration is midnight April 18. No registrations will be accepted after that time and you must be registered by that date to attend the 2021 Gathering.
    • To create and maintain a safe space for the work of Gathering participants we ask that all participants arrange their schedules to be present from the opening ceremony at 7 p.m. Friday till the closing ceremony at 3 p.m. on Sunday. The quality of experience of the Gathering is highly dependent on the "container" that the participants create over the course of the weekend. The so-called container is a psychological space in which individual participants can safely stretch their limits and feel supported in the process.

    Refund Policy

    • Cancel by the registration cutoff date, midnight the Sunday before the start date – registration fee refunded less 10% for administrative costs.
    • Cancellations after the cutoff date and through Thursday the day before the Gathering start – generally, registration fee forfeited and diverted to help with financial aid and operations; a nonrefundable credit of the registration fee can, on a case by case basis, be applied to the next year’s Gathering if you decide to attend.  Credits not used in a year will go toward TMC financial aid and operations.
    • Less than 24 hours in advance, no shows, or early departure – registration fee forfeited and used to support TMC's financial aid and operations.

    The Men’s Council reserves the right to cancel this event at any time, in which case a full refund will be provided. 

    Financial Aid

    No one will be excluded due to financial need. We have arranged for a range of options from partial to full waivers of registration fees depending on an individual's situation.

    To register for the Gathering go to the Registration Page. You will complete a registration form and then be directed to the options for paying registration fees. If you need financial aid, you will also find a button linking to a form to make your request.

    2021 TMC Gathering, April 23-25
    Registration ends Midnight Sunday, April 18


    Contact Information

    TMC REGISTRAR: Bron Skinner
    PHONE or TEXT: 919-923-7539 (cell)

    The Men’s Council
    Attn: Registrar, Bron Skinner
    8222 Huntsman Court
    Chapel Hill, NC 27516